Home of Jules

It was a working Saturday yesterday, so boring lol. After work, got home to an empty house. Well, except for Roxiie la lol. The weather was nice and not very hot, so I took her to for a quick walk to tire her out a little bit before taking her to the vet. I made my own lunch. Raided the fridge and decided to cook potato omelette. I’ve never had potato omelette before, and this is my first time cooking it too. So I’m just guessing that’s how you’re supposed to cook la la lol. Yummy! It’s actually very nice XD

Then took Roxiie for her first vet visit. Nothing much about it, just a normal visit to a clinic. She’s healthy ^^

Rested a bit, took her for her evening walk, fed her dinner, then got ready to go out. Max picked me up and we went to Wangsa Walk for dinner and movie. Wanted to catch Sorcerer’s Apprentice, but no good seatings and timings were available, so we got Despicable Me instead. It’s so hilarious that everytime I watch a movie with Max, it’s always animation haha. First Shrek Forever After, then Toy Story 3, now Despicable Me. He will kill me if the next movie we watch together is an animation again XD

We had 2 hours for dinner before the movie, and he decided to go for TGI Friday’s. I didn’t feel like having meat at the time, so finally I decided on salmon. He had the JD burger. I was pretty entertained to see him enjoying it so much, as he said that it was the BEST burger ever. Orgasmic? Haha I wish I got a picture of it XD Even insisted that I try it, so I had my first bite of beef after many years. Ooh indeedy, it really was very good. So having a little beef once in a while is not so bad after all hehe.

The movie was good! I like Gru, he’s funny hehe. And Agnes was soooo adorable. I especially love it when she grunted in excitement, “it’s so FLUFFEHHH~!!!” The funniest bits must be the little yellow minions. Whatever the heck they’re supposed to be, with their weird gibberish language. And kinda sweet how Gru got attached to the little girls. “Clink” hehe.

Ahhh that was a good night out. Really needed that sort of time off from my life issues

Let this be the last and final angry post.

What makes a bad boyfriend. In no particular order:

~ One who cries crocodile tears just to win you over.

~ One who lies his way to get you soft-hearted and trust his sincerity.

~ One who keeps you hanging on when he just doesn’t feel it anymore.

~ One who controls your impromptu activities to the point that you are forced to bluff.

~ One who tells you that he hates a girl who smokes, drinks, and clubs, when he knew from the start that you do.

~ One who insults your hobbies/ interests/ activities, just because he doesn’t understand it.

~ One who does not support and/or encourage you when you’re at your lowest moments.

~ One who calls you crazy when you cry during your lowest moments.

~ One who absolutely refuses to meet any of your friends and/or family.

~ One who gets upset at you when you don’t fight against your parents to project his ‘good’ image.

~ One who doesn’t accept you as who/what you are and tries to mould you into something that he wants.

~ One who makes you cook for him even when you don’t really feel like it.

~ One when asked, keeps on says “anything” or “whatever”, then complains about not getting the chance to have his way.

~ One whom you can’t rely on to help you with something important.

~ One who gets mad at you when you get upset that he’s unreliable.

~ One who asks you to give wake up calls, then get mad for being awaken up, and doesn’t wake up until several hours later, and gets mad when you get upset that the wake up calls are pointless.

~ One who sleeps throughout the day when you’re supposed to be spending time together, and gets upset when you wake him up so that you could do something together.

~ One who, during an argument, drives off when you stormed off to walk alone in the dark streets during the late night.

~ One who completely ignores you as though you’re invisible during a conflict.

~ One who then uses profanities on you when you argue.

~ One who plays computer games and disregards you when you cry by his feet.

~ One who refuses to say anything when you argue in person, but sends you a whole load of toxic texts after.

~ One who keeps you in hiding from his family but expects you to have the guts to get out of the room and introduce yourself.

~ One who never properly introduces you to his friends and family. They must be psychic to know your name.

~ One who wants to get a pet, asks you to go fetch it, and then disregards it and makes you in charge of taking care of it.

~ One who loses his temper directly at you in front of all his relatives during his birthday party.

~ One who calls you stupid when you accidentally did something wrong.

~ One who says ‘I love you’ when you know he doesn’t mean it.

~ One who doesn’t see the changes you make about yourself just to make him happy.

~ One who borrows money from you.

~ One who makes you swap belongings for his own benefit, and gets upset when you protest/disagree.

~ One who doesn’t take care of your things when you willingly lend it to him.

~ One who breaks up with you by text/msn.

And more! Now…

What makes a bad ex-boyfriend. In no particular order:

~ One who tells his friends that his decision to break up was because of your parents objection.

~ One who blocks you on Facebook when he should’ve went straight to the delete button.

~ One who tells you that you will be ‘friends forever’, and then disappears himself.

~ One who confronts you over your trashing about the things he has done you wrong with.

~ One who hurts you further by telling you all the goodness about his new girl and how you don’t even qualify to be compared.

~ One who laughs at you for still being obedient to your parents and believing that they matter the most.

~ One who tells you that you should physically look like a typical girl (long hair and skirts), or else no man would want you.

~ One who still has the nerve to pick on the wrongs that you have done when they don’t even match up to the wrongs that he has done.

~ One who shamelessly shows off stuff when you’re not even interested to know.

~ One who tells you that you are a nobody who means nothing.

And more!

Goodness gracious, how things have gone out of hand over the previous post. No, rephrase that. How things have been blown waaay out of proportion. Over what? Uh, news flash. I actually pay for this domain, so I have every right to post whatever I damn well please. Except stuff that could have me end up in jail, of course. Freedom of speech, y’all. If you don’t like my writings, please leave and never return. It’s an evil place! Don’t look back! Eeeks! XD Seriously, do not read any further, what comes next might just burst your blood veins. You’re gonna read anyway, right? Oh well, suit yourself. Ye hath been warned.

I feel so… “what the hell?” lol. Ok so I know the previous post wasn’t the most civilised way to talk about other people, but I did not mention names, eh? I had half the mind to totally just expose the names and even include a mugshot if I wanted, but I didn’t. Because I am subtle and discreet like that. I believe that the previous post were merely short sypnosised summaries of my elaborated complicated thoughts and got totally misunderstood. Or not. I have blogged about super emo things before, but no one has ever stopped me from writing this way. Either way, goodness me, apparently it was a much bigger deal for other people than I thought. But you know what, it doesn’t matter. As long as the people who actually matter to me understands the actual situation(s), then it doesn’t bother me what other people think.

Am I perfect? Nope, absolutely not. I am as flawed as everyone else, and I totally admit it. Tch, the kind of speculations that people make around something that they were supposed to forget about. Point and insult me all you want, guys. I have never been truer to myself than now, nothing you all can say that can bring me down ever again. I am perfectly flawed, but I do my best without losing myself. I am not always right, but I am also not always wrong. I can’t please everybody, so if you can’t accept me as I am, then just turn around and leave. I only wished that pots would stop calling kettles black. Nice try on attempting to piss me off, but guess what? Sorry la. So failed hehe. Unfortunately those pathetic remarks are not working to make me feel insulted. Because *shrugs* I realise my flaws Jules is stubborn, stingy, selfish, inconsiderate, with a boyish figure and a strong attitude. Like, honey, I knooow. Thank you so much for noticing ^^ I love being untypical and unpredictable.

It’s amusing. Some people said goodbye. Some people hurt me further before vowing to cut me off. But they still follow my blog closely. Then terasa pulak. Lol funny, kinda like being stalked. Maybe next time, instead of asking people to “follow my blog”, I’ll say “stalk my blog” x) Anyway. You miss me so much, doncha? Awww so touching that you still care! Come on, beee a man, dooo the right thing (kekeke). “Right thing” here, by the way, is to disappear like you said you would. In case you didn’t get what I mean And one last favor to me, please learn how to let go.

Take care!

Ps, lesson of the day: Thou shall not offend thy female Scorpio

This post is dedicated to 3 different males who stumbled into my life. Good and bad way.

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Mr R:
Why did you even show up in my life, shower it with sweet lies, only to wreck it and tear me apart? You gave me the experience of the most miserable relationship ever. Sure it was nice, but too bad it wasn’t sincere. On your part anyway. Did you really think I suspected nothing? I was just hoping that I was wrong about those red flags. I should’ve just listened to my gut instincts and save myself from all the hurt that you have put upon my fragile heart. After all you did, you still talk as though the fault was all mine. Seriously, you are absolutely completely heartless. Despite your deadly poison, I’m glad I can emerge as the “phoenix” I hope to be and managed to pull through and become my true self that you never did accept (fuck you). And here I say to you, Mr R, good riddance! I’m normally not this mean, but YOU, my devil’s ass of a “friend”, can go die and rot in fucking hell. Heard of karma? You. Will. Pay.

Mr D:
Aiyoyo, ah boy. Up til the end also you don’t seem to wake up and realise. Didn’t you make me your “sister” because I make sense? Why did you have to make it weird by making it obvious that you had a huge crush on me just because I cared lol. I’ve been there, done that. I could see that it was not real, why couldn’t you just stop and listen when I say that you’re still young? Responding badly by saying that you’re old at age 25 with a bunch of irrelevant and illogical explainations just proves just how young I think you are. Quarter Life Crisis, remember? I thought I told you. There’s so much more to life and the world than just finding a life partner to settle down with. Open up your baby boy eyes and just freaking SEE it, will you? Oh, and to go off topic and bringing up my dog, my dad, and religion? That offense was so not cool, kid.

Mr C:
You still linger on in my mind all the while. I was in denial of it because I was so determined to get over it. Oh, I was so so young. I’m still somewhat very young. In the sense that I don’t know what to do. Or maybe I’m mature enough now that I’m afraid of the consequences, therefore holding myself back. Sometimes I miss you to the point that I question myself about why I did what I did. It seemed like the best idea at the time, but now I’m not so sure anymore. Our memories are still strong in my mind, I can’t deny. I just want you to know I’ve always wanted to know how you’re doing, but was too egoistic to ask you myself. At least I finally admit and broke the ice. But how much do I have to hint for you to initiate something? I’ve been having one thought since a long time, and that is “How come you don’t come look for me?” I didn’t know what to expect if you did, but I wished you did anyway. Sigh.

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Some things I go through in life huh? Lol. Way to go, Quarter Life Crisis! Way to go, Universe! XD

This was my fourth Bon Odori visit, but the first one that all 3 of the chicas went together ^^ It was fun~! Earlier in the day, we all met up for quick lunch first and quick round of shopping at Pyramid because Jocey urgently needed some new shoes for work. Aaand then we’re off! I volunteered as driver of the day because I’ve never driven to Shah Alam before, and Jocey was the GPS manager XD

On the way!

We arrived at the area at 5pm, the time where the schedule says that the gates would be opened. There was already a jam and we parked sooo far away! And the festival officially starts at 7pm lol. Seriously what time do these people come?? Maybe we have to come earlier next year then >.<

We’re here!

First things first, foooood! Japanese food and drinks galore! We surveyed first what’s around, then we squeezed through the crowd and made our purchases. Then it’s picnic time!

Tea, Onigiri, Maki, Takoyaki, Mochi~

Oh the weather was beautiful! Last year was humid and hazy, but I loved this year hehe.  The evening sun was shining, the sky was lightly cloudy, and it was moderately windy. Perfect weather for Bon Odori! Took some photos ^^

Happy ladies!

And cute kiddies in yukata, kawaii!

Hung around the stage, waiting for the opening ceremony with some Japanese boys playing the traditional drums.

It’s the same every year.

Then it’s cultural dancing time! No photos of this, because 1) too busy dancing; 2) too crowded in the field. We accidentally bumped into a middle-aged man during one of the dances. We apologised but he stood firmly at his spot with an angry face not saying a word, refusing to budge at all, when everyone else around him was laughing and dancing (or trying to lol). Someone’s BOUND to bump into him, duh. Question was, why was he even in that area of the field if he’s being such a spoilsport? His feet must be planted in the middle of the field.

Oh well. Shall not let that ruin our day! After the first round of cultural dance was over, we left the place and took a loooong walk back to the car. Headed back to SS15 and we had dinner at PappaRich, yummy. Didn’t stay too long cause all of us were exhausted lol. It was so much fun, we must do this again every year ^^

Introducing my pet nephew, Ricardo Ho King Lun, born 6th July 2010. First child of my pet brother, congratulations to Clinston and wife Hannah!

Isn’t he precious?? It’s been yeeears since I’ve seen a newborn baby. Usually I see the kid when they’re at least a month old. OMG the sweetheart is just 4 days old XD I’m glad I decided to visit mama and baby the following day after they got discharged from hospital. Sooo tiny! And fragile. My goodness, so sweet, I love him <3

Lol cheesy title, I know

I know I’ve been missing for a while. Missed me? Lol. Been pretty occupied… One reason or another :/ What more with Fifa World Cup going on at the moment haha. I know right, I don’t know much about football, and I’m not exactly much of a sports fan either. But I get all the buzz and excitement about World Cup, so yes, I watch the matches lol.

Last Saturday was another chicahood meet up. It’s different this time around because it was the first time that we did nothing all day. Really, did nothing lol. We were having lunch and tea at OldTown in SS15 for about 4 hours. Then about dinner time, we moved to Pappa Rich around the corner for another 2 hours. We just sat around with food and drinks, and talked the day away. Lepak culture? Lol. To some people, maybe it seemed like we were wasting time by doing nothing for so many hours. But for us, it’s just another bonding moment I love my girls, they keep me from shattering myself!

You know who else I love? Hehe no question, it’s Roxiie! Here, a clearer photo of my beautiful girl.

Finally got her to settle down for a proper photo haha. Her unique look is that ‘mohawk’ thingie along her back. Cute huh?? The difference with her now and when she was a puppy are that… Her tail is much bushier than before… Her ears stand up now, previously they were completely drooped… She’s more golden now than her previous dirt colour. Remember?

Back when she was known as Hailey.

Iks sent the chicas an email with the link to an article to put us [quoting Iks] on the road to being happy. The article is a review on a book by Don Miguel Ruiz, “The Four Agreements”. Read on, this is my summarised version of the book based on Brian Johnson’s article:

You need a very strong will in order to adopt the Four Agreements—but if you can begin to live your life with these agreements, the transformation in your life will be amazing. You will see the drama of hell disappear right before your very eyes. Instead of living in a dream of hell, you will be creating a new dream—your personal dream of heaven.

The First Agreement: Be Impeccable with Your Word
The Second Agreement: Don’t Take Anything Personally
The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions
The Fourth Agreement: Always Do Your Best

Children are domesticated the same way that we domesticate a dog, a cat, or any other animal. In order to teach a dog we punish the dog and we give it rewards. We train our children whom we love so much the same way that we train any domesticated animal: with a system of punishment and reward. We are told, ‘You’re a good boy,’ or ‘You’re a good girl,’ when we do what Mom and Dad want us to do. When we don’t, we are a ‘bad girl’ or a ‘bad boy.’

> 1st Agreement: Be Impeccable with Your Word
The first agreement is the most important one and also the most difficult one to honor. It is so important that with just this first agreement you will be able to transcend to the level of existence I call heaven on earth. The first agreement is to be impeccable with your word. It sounds very simple, but it is very, very powerful.
Impeccability means ‘without sin.’ Impeccable comes from the Latin pecatus, which means ‘sin.’ The im in impeccable means ‘without,’ so impeccable means ‘without sin.’ Religions talk about sin and sinners, but let’s understand what it really means to sin. A sin is anything that you do which goes against yourself. Everything you feel or believe or say that goes against yourself is a sin. You go against yourself when you judge or blame yourself for anything. Being without sin is exactly the opposite. Being impeccable is not going against yourself. When you are impeccable, you take responsibility for your actions, but you do not judge or blame yourself.

> 2nd Agreement: Don’t Take Anything Personally
Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally… if I see you on the street and say, ‘Hey, you are so stupid,’ without knowing you, it’s not about you; it’s about me. If you take it personally, then perhaps you believe you are stupid. Maybe you think to yourself, ‘How does he know? Is he clairvoyant, or can everybody see how stupid I am?’ Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of  themselves.

Extra note: Ervin Seale (see Notes on Take Off from Within) reminds us: “There is one recurring, persistent, perennial, and dogging personal problem which, more than any other, steals the force and peace of people and ruins projects and enterprises and careers. It is the habit of feeling hurt because of what others do or do not do and what they say or do not say.”

> 3rd Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions
We have the tendency to make assumptions about everything. The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth. We could swear they are real. We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking—we take it personally—then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our word. That is why when we make assumptions, we’re asking for problems. We make an assumption, we misunderstand, we take it personally, and we end up creating a whole big drama for nothing.
The way to keep yourself from making assumptions is to ask questions. Make sure the communication is clear. If you don’t understand, ask. Have the courage to ask questions until you are as clear as you can be.

> 4th Agreement: Always Do Your Best