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Posted by Jules on January 29, 2010

What’s considered a beautiful face? What’s considered a beautiful body? It’s very subjective, don’t you think? Million and one differences of each individual, of each different race and/or heritage and/or culture. And funny enough, the grass always seems to be greener on the other side.

I recently read an article about what Korean men find attractive in a woman. Now, typical orient Asian women have small slanted eyes, flat nose, and thin lips. They are naturally fair, unless they live in tropical weather (like Malaysia), then they’re slightly tanned. But, according to the article, women are attractive only if they have big baby eyes, high sharp nose, and full lips. These are such Caucasian features, it’s no wonder that cosmetic surgery is still highly popular.

Note: Yours truly had cosmetic surgery done too. The most common procedure and an extremely minor one at that. While most people do it for pure vanity, it was only partial vanity for me. The other part of me simply wants convenience and ease in applying makeup XD

Why does it matter on how a person looks on the face? I mean, if one is neat and clean with one’s appearance, should that not be enough? Why do some people think it’s only attractive if one has porcelain flawless skin, extended eyelashes, plump shiny lips, etc. So fake, don’t you think?? Or in other words, so ‘plastic’! What’s wrong with freckles and blemishes and blackheads and zits? (I’m not gonna say nothing is wrong with a wart, cause god damn warts are hideous lol).

I suppose I don’t have anything to complain about. Anymore lol. Though I think that my nose is weird, but it’s not that obvious. So I have blackheads on my nose that keeps coming back. And freckles on my cheeks that are permanently there. And several a whole lot of moles dotting my face (and body). And dark rings under my puffy eyes that come and go. And I actually see wrinkles developing (sob!). But it’s ok! I like these imperfections, cause it’s what makes me naturally real lol.

Back to topic! And then, to complete the package, one needs to have an awesome body. For women, they have to be slim with the right curves (or lovely lady lumps lol), and bodyhairless. For men, they have to be tall and lean with the right… er… lumps. Though a different type of lumps from the ladies XD You know what I mean lol.

Now, even though fitness by itself can be achieved through strict workout routines, but how many people are actually born with a frame to carry that ‘perfect’ figure?? Natural pears, apples and rulers are so screwed for life, right? No, there’s still the option of plastic surgery. Woot for liposuction. Again, the knife. Again fakeness rules, yeah! =_=”’ No. I was being sarcastic, of course. Seriously, what’s wrong with a little fats? What’s wrong with not having the right ‘lumps’? What’s wrong with an imperfect posture? What’s wrong with a few body hairs? Birthmarks, sun spots, moles??

OK, I’m gonna use myself as the ‘model’ in subject. See the photo below. This is the most recent full body photo of me taken earlier this month.

So I have a health-freak mother, and a detox/diet-crazy sister. I suppose I was influenced by them, growing up thinking that only thin looks good. I’m always told that my thighs are fat and my calves are big. Then I realise that it’s only proportionate because I have strangely thick anklebones. I’m also always told to lose a lot of chubs around my waist cause I got no curves and I should lose weight til my pants go 2 sizes down. But my hipbones are already poking out from the top of my jeans lol. I somehow lost inches couple of years ago. Either from yoga, or growing up just shed away the baby fats. I was excited to be slimmer than I was before, but still thought that I could shed some more inches!

Contrary to that though, some people think that I should gain some meat in my bones. I must be quite a pear, since my family thinks my waist down is too big, and other people thinks that my waist up is too small. Haha XD I only know that my arms are thinner than most other average-sized girls, and I’m small around the erm, chest area, causing the illusion that I’m thin? I found it unbelievable that people find me too thin, perhaps because I was brought up thinking I need to lose weight all the time I feel fat, especially around the tummy area. Until I look at this photo here. Ok, so maybe I AM a little too thin in proportion :/

But I still think that I’m too chubby in the tummy! Been trying to lose that but now I should gain weight to look more proportionate? How confusing Perhaps I should stop being so concerned about being fat. Just eat whatever whenever I like. Wait, I already do that lol. Ok, so I should just stop being so concerned about being fat Why is big not beautiful? I mean of course must not let myself go until I get overweight la. But being slightly on the chubby side. Be less vain, less envious, less obsessive lol.
Meh, but I should safely gain a liiittle bit of chubs without having to give up my clothes, right? XD I still like to look good in tight jeans lol. Thank goodness I’m tall-ish

I blame media and society for implying that one HAS to be flawless and thin to be beautiful and attractive (to the opposite sex) XD But thank goodness that these days, some media is promoting the beauty of voluptous curves instead of the unhealthy stick-thin figure.

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